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Welcome to our public resources section where you can find useful guidance and self development areas on the skills and habits we need to disagree well.

These resources are relevant to a range of life stages  – whether you are looking for personal development to help your communication skills in the workplace, or in your private life with friends, family, or maybe it could help you in your leisure and volunteering pursuits?  Or maybe it will help your confidence talking in or outside class if you are studying at school or in higher education. 

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'Beyond Borders' interview, SI-UK India: UCL historian Dr Michael Collins talking all things India, studying in the UK, London, UK-India education, Liberal Arts, Creative Thinking, and the need to "Disagree Well". Watch the video.

Social media algorithms amplify misogynistic content to teens: The algorithmic study, led by Principal investigator Dr Kaitlyn Regehr (UCL Information Studies), found an increase in the level of misogynistic content on TikTok accounts over just five days on the platform. Read the article or access the full report (PDF). 

Digital Speech Lab: For more information on UCL researchers studying how to improve the digital public sphere, visit the Digital Speech Lab.

Disagreeing Well Skills Video Series

UCL’s Disagreeing Well Skills Series is written and hosted by Mia Forbes Pirie, international conflict mediator, coach and UCL alumna. This series will cover what it means to disagree well, including useful tips and advice to help you learn. 

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Introduction to the Series

Welcome to UCL’s Disagreeing Well Skills Series, with Mia Forbes Pirie, international conflict mediator, coach and UCL alumna. Mia’s introduction gives you an overview of the series and its aim to share the key skills to help you be able to disagree better as well as protect yourself emotionally and grow stronger and more able to have difficult conversations.

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Ep 1 - Being empowered in conversation

This first episode explores being empowered in conversations. Mia walks through how to navigate challenging conversations with her top five tips.  If you get to grips with these five concepts you will feel much more empowered in difficult conversations. 


About Mia Forbes Pirie

Mia Forbes Pirie (LLB Law with French Law 1998) is one of the UK's leading international mediators and winner of the UK Independent Mediator of the Year 2022 Corporate International Award.

Her work ranges from dealing with personal matters like divorce and neighbour complaints to mediating on a global scale for G7 countries, the Government of Mongolia, the EU, the Church of England and Members of Parliament. She has advised the US Department of Energy on using facilitated negotiation to develop legislation, enabling them to reach peaceful solutions and positive transformation.

The subject matters she has dealt with include space, chemicals, oil and gas, sustainability, refugees, same-sex marriage, race, competition law and property law.

Described as “a quiet storm”, Mia is trilingual, holds both a Masters of Law and Science, has spoken at Chatham House on Conflict Resolution and hosted the European Union Commission's Business Awards for the Environment.

Find out more about Mia

Mia Forbes Pirie

Additional Resources

The list below offers a comprehensive exploration of the art of disagreeing well, providing insights from various perspectives and mediums. Whether you prefer books, lectures, TED Talks, or podcasts, these resources aim to guide you in fostering constructive conversations and finding common ground in the face of disagreement.  


  • “This is not America: Why Black Lives in Britain Matter”, Tomiwa Owolade, Publisher: Atlantic Books, 2023.  
  •  “What do you Think?  How to agree to disagree and still be friends” Matthew Syed,  Publisher: Wren & Rook, 2022. 
  • "The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion" by Jonathan Haidt 
  • "Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most" by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen 
  • "The Art of Thinking Clearly" by Rolf Dobelli 
  • "Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High" by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler 
  • “How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide” by Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay 
  • "How to Disagree. Negotiate Difference in a divided world." by Adam Ferner and Darren Chetty.  Publisher: Quarto Publishing Plc, 2019.
  • "Mere Civility: Disagreement and the Limits of Toleration" by Teresa Bejan. Publisher: Harvard University Press, 2017
  • "How to Argue with a racist" by Adam Rutherford.  Publisher: Orion Publishing Co, 2021



  • "On Being with Krista Tippett" - Episode: "How to Love a Country" with José Olivarez 
  • “How to Talk To People” series, The Atlantic  
  • "The Art of Charm" - Episode: "How to Disagree" with Julia Dhar 
  • "Making Sense” series, Sam Harris  
  • "Disagree Better" series, Tammi Lenski
  • "How to Disagree: Lessons on Productive Conflict at Work and Home" audiobook, Ian Leslie
  • "Mediation Matters" series, Adam Gersch

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